After I e-mailed my mother-in-law my blog address the other day, she brought up the concern of blogs not being private. She brings up valid concerns, the concerns to which I believe that I have safeguarded against from the very beginning. I don't want to dismiss her concerns though, because the internet can be a scary place if you don't keep yourself safe.
1. Only my first name is disclosed. There is no mention of my last name. Both Hubs and K- are referred to as such and only will be. There are multiple reasons for this.
2. I've never disclosed the town we live in. I've only mentioned that we live in NE Ohio, which covers a fairly big area.
3. I've posted one full-on face photo of K- and Hubs, she was very young, it was family far away and a different situation. I figure if Hubs truly wants his face on the internet, that's his own thing. K-, however, runs into a different category. There are nasty people out there that lift photos of children from the internet and do even nastier things with them. In the recent months, wasn't there a lady in Florida that claimed that she had a missing child, had photos and everything only to find out later that those photos were an internet lift of someone else's kid? I worry about that. This is why my cute child's face will be kept anonymous.
4. I've never disclosed our places of employment. Y'all know that I work at a gallery and Hubs works at a park. 'Nuff info there.
5. You'll never find me referring to the full name of K-'s friends or posting their face photo on the blog either. Again, their parents can do that with their own kid if they want. It's not my place to do so.
6. If we are out of town, I don't post about it until we are back.
I try to do what I can to stay safe on the internet. Though my mother-in-law certainly brings up valid points, I'd like to hope that I have addressed it all along as though it shouldn't be an issue. I realize that I could tag the entire blog as private, but I don't believe that is necessary. I've been able to keep the comments open with a password. I haven't had to enable comment moderation, but know those who have. I've also known blogs that I once read that decided to go private because of not knowing who was popping in and out. Certainly, I understand that, too. I pretty much know who comes in and out, thanks to the blog patrol. I know where people are referred from, what things they read and if they went into comments. Works for Me Wednesday is the exception, but I've had genuinely kind folks stop in. I've been blessed, but who really cares what a mom from Ohio has to say, anyhow? :)
Speaking of, it brought me to thinking -- why do I have a blog? Originally, I started the blog to tack an internet store to it. I have art to sell, little girl things that I've made and I thought it would be another avenue to show and sell. I plan to do this, but I wanted to get the blog thing in full swing and know what I was doing there first. Also, I was a lurker for a few years, reading blogs, learning things and thought that perhaps we could touch someone with our story of adoption. Maybe there is someone out there that needs our help or an ear to listen to what they are going through with that. We've also experienced loss through stillbirth. Is there a mommy out there that needs another mommy's shoulder that has been there? It's a journal. I'm not a scrapbooker. Really, I'd rather poke my eye out with a pencil. (Sorry folks.) But, I'm able to chronicle things for K-, the good, bad and otherwise. I'm able to vent. I'm able to be myself and I write it for myself and my family. Folks have hobbies. My husband loves to shop for used CD's. K- loves Polly Pockets. I could do worse, eh?
That brings me to the question of the week-- how do you feel about internet safety and blogs? Have you had any issues? I'm curious.
Day 4: Love is thoughtful. How precious also are your thoughts to me . . . How vast is the sum of them! If I should count them, they would outnumber the sand. -- Psalm 139:17-18
Today's Dare: Contact your spouse sometime during the business of the day. Have no agenda other than asking how he or she is doing and if there is anything you could do for them.