It all moved, but I didn't feel a thing.

I work just on the edge of downtown.  There were buildings evacuated just in case.  The KSU Main branch library was evacuated just in case.  (Hubs and I went to college there.) 

I felt nothing.

Hubs felt nothing.

K- called me and said, "Mom?  I think that there was an earthquake.  Did you feel it?" 

We had no news or any update feed available to us, so I was functioning with what I overheard from customers and my mom.  Mom reported Emerald Isle having been affected, so that left me to think of my friend, Rachael, and her family.  I gave a quick call from work.  She is good and well.  The family is good and well. 

I hope that this post finds all of you well.  So, did you feel it.  Are y'all okay?

You can't control everything.

It's that time of year.  You start thinking about the upcoming year.  You start thinking about teachers.  You have your hopes.  You have your dreams.

Do you put in that request?

Last year, I did.  I put in a request for a teacher that I had the pleasure of listening to as she taught while I updated our 100 Book Challenge board.  She was firm with her students, caring, but they absolutely did not question who the head of the class was.  There was no funny business.  Her class behaved beautifully as they moved through the halls.  K- got that teacher, has learned so much from her and I don't regret hand-picking her for a minute.

Knowing what I know about Mrs. S-, how incredibly in-tune to her students she is and how she will truly pay attention to every little bit about their habits and personalities before placing them in a class, I didn't put in a formal request for a teacher.  I spoke with Mrs. S- about a concern that Hubs had brought up about a teacher from previous years that he had visit his workplace.  She's no longer there.  Mrs. S- reported that K- will do well with any of the teachers that they have for the 2nd grade, and I trust her judgment completely. 

I had a mom concerned about the teacher that her daughter may get for next year.  She phoned me and discussed what we had come up with.  Both of us had gone ahead and spoken to Mrs. S- about next year.  She's concerned and truly wants the best teacher she can have for her daughter.  I agreed that we all want that same thing, too.  I said that as much as I'm having a hard time with it, we have to let things fall where they may and loosen our apron strings a little.  I admitted that it is something I have to work on.  Is there a teacher that I've been eyeing for a while?  Sure.  I honestly told the mom that I have had interactions with all of the teachers on a regular basis.  It is because of 100 Book Challenge that they all know me and know what they'll be getting in their classrooms, too. 

My question is this.  We love our kids.  We want to pave the path for them.  We want to pave it in gold and give them the best opportunities possible.  At what point is that paving considered helicoptering, controlling and being too involved? 

Thoughts?

Embracing baking soda

No, this is not a paid product review. Just my own personal thoughts here.

I've been working toward using some more natural things in our home/life. The turn of the year brought me to the conclusion that I would switch from deodorant with aluminum to something more body friendly. I started using Tom's of Maine Lavender Deodorant.

At first, I was pretty pleased. The smell was great. It seemed to work well enough. By the end of the day I could tell that I had overrun the effectiveness, but it was winter so it didn't matter right then.

I found myself digging near my underarms.

The effectiveness was lasting for a markedly shorter period of time when the warmer weather came.

Then I noticed it. Tom's of Maine actually burnt the area encircling my underarm. My underarm was the donut center to a very red, dry and large itchy area. Oh, it did not feel good and definitely wouldn't work for bathing suit season. I switched back to Dove Deodorant to clear the mess up. I used Dove for a few months and decided that I would try an aluminum free deodorant again.

My sister suggested Arm & Hammer Essentials Natural Deodorant. She found that it worked very well for her, particularly during warm days, and was effective for about 12 hours before a need of re-application came up.

I'm happy to say that I've been using it for about a week and find that the same is true for me. A bonus? No underarm burn! At $2.99/stick, it is a bargain!

I also buy Arm & Hammer laundry detergent. I figured that it wasn't probably 100% natural by any stretch, but went on the hunt for some more answers on that. Surprisingly, Arm & Hammer is being sued for not disclosing the ingredient listing of their cleaning products. Seventh Generation and companies of the like are in compliance, but sadly Arm & Hammer (according to this report) is not. Still, the detergent feels light and fluffy like baking soda. It doesn't seem gummy like the Surf detergent I was using previously. I have no problem with it dissolving in even cold water, which again was a problem that caused me to ditch Surf. (It wasn't a problem all along, I believe that they changed formulas and Sam's Club started carrying a different scent that I was allergic to.) It cleans our clothes well, isn't overly perfumed and is a bargain at $11.86/box (145 loads.)

I was talking to my organic chicken farmer friend and she reports that she has just started using baking soda to replace cleanser and other cleaners. My question-- does it naturally disinfect? I need to go on the hunt for more information.

What about you? Do you have a love for baking soda or other natural cleaners? Do tell.

Smiles in my weekend:
- Having a few weeks worth of breathing before 3 straight weeks of summer camp starts.

Have a great day!

Children, unattended.

Rachael brought up some good questions about the children's behavior that we encountered in the gallery Tuesday. Here is what I can tell you:

1. They were teenagers (mostly) and their parents deposited them in our store (the sister store to the gallery) so that they could go shopping while the kids played around.
2. The kids picked up, touched, twirled around, knocked over, left in a variety of places merchandise from the store. Now, I get paid to display things and moving things around is something that happens. It isn't that big of a deal. However, we had one girl that decided to take our bells off of the door (not for sale) and wrap them around her waist to shake about. It was lovely.
3. These children were never taught the concept of "look with your eyes." It was a continued trend on through today. Any button that can be pushed was. If something flips, slurps, twirls or spins, they will try it. It is like there is absolutely no restraint. The parents don't tell them no.
4. A child was bouncing/running through the store, all the while his mother was following behind him. She said nothing.

Julia and I discussed the behavior. She just came back from Greece, where she had to tell the kids that she was helping to chaperon that, "Sales are very aggressive here, so if you touch it, you pretty much have just bought it."

I didn't notice the intense touching of everything until Julia came along. You know, she is right.

The children of Tuesday didn't flinch when I had to give the "mom look" occasionally. They also didn't seem to be bothered when I was constantly underfoot with my Swiffer in hand.

I think that kids are very different from when even I went to high school. Kids today are more bold. The children of Tuesday walked around as if it was a badge of entitlement.

It isn't just the kids, though. It is spring break here, so kids are coming with parents in tow. Sometimes, the parents are just as clueless and disrespectful as the kids.

I've wondered if it is a regional thing or a societal shift? Are kids (not all mind you) really more unruly now than they were before? I know that I was a dorkily obnoxious teen. I wasn't unruly, though.

So I ask, what do you think? How are kids (all ages) in comparison to the days of your youth?

Smiles in my day:
- Having new merchandise to display and gluing to do to keep me busy all day.
- Getting a few play dates scheduled for K- so that her spring break won't be boring after all. (She cut out telling me that she was bored when I told her to take a time out the other day. She asked for me to reconsider because she had decided that she was "unbored after all." I told her that when we were kids and we told my mom that we were bored, she gave us funky, out-of-the-ordinary housework jobs to do to "unbored" us.)
- Clean laundry piled on my bed, ready to be put away.

Have a great day!

She wrote and wrote, then Blogger told her that she wrote too much in the comments. From Rachael:

Okay, my opinions, for what they're worth.

First of all, parents today want to raise their children in a "democracy", where the children have a say in what goes on in the house. Our home? A dictatorship and *I'm* the one in charge. I'll listen to Lil's opinion, consider her feelings, but then move on, because, let's face it, *I'm* the adult and *I* know best. There are times and places where democracies are a good thing, but home and school are not those places. I may sound harsh, and maybe we're not a *total* dictatorship at home and school, but really, as adults, we have more life experience and better decision making capabilities than children--even teenagers.

Second, many parents today want to be their child's friend. I don't know about you, but my mom and papa were NEVER my friends. They were my parents, and they might have been friendly with me, but quite frankly, they didn't care if I was p'd off at them or not. One time I yelled, "I HATE you!" at my mom who came back with, "Well, I don't like you too much right now either." They knew their job was to raise me to be a functioning, contributing member of society, NOT to be my friend.

Third, kids are given EVERYTHING these days. Okay, over generalization, but you know what I mean. If I wanted something, I had to *EARN* it, or, earn the money to purchase it myself. We were given gifts on birthdays and Christmas, and rarely received toys any other time. What happens when we take kids to fast food places? They get toys. We go to Tar*get and there is the $1 spot where you can get a cheapie toy for practically no cost. The mind-set must be something along the lines of, "Well, it only costs a buck, so it's not that big a deal." But, it IS.

Fourth, we have more wealth today than our parents had. Parents want their kids to be happy so they give and give and give. We are also an instant gratification society and see nothing wrong with demanding everything NOW.

Finally, many parents are SO engrossed in their own lives, they don't want to make the sacrifices necessary to raise children. How often have you been forced to deal with screaming kiddos in restaurants? The parents don't want to interrupt/sacrifice their meal so they subject the rest of us to their screaming child. Same goes with movies, stores, etc.

Alas, along the way, we seem to have lost the true purpose of parenting--raising respectful, polite, contributing members of society. I used to want to apologize to Hannah because I was a "mean" mommy who had hard and fast rules and had a set of expectations of appropriate behavior at home and out and about. There are many of us like this out there, but just as many of the other variety as well.

My girlfriend had a NIGHTMARE dinner out with a couple of families from her daughter's preschool. The parents allowed their children to open and eat jelly straight from the jelly packs, open and tip back sugar packets and "play around" the restaurant running around an climbing all over the empty booths an tables--"to get it out of their systems". My girlfriend was HORRIFIED. How are children going to learn to sit and be polite if we don't EXPECT it of them?

Or, if your children aren't old enough to understand or the expectations are not age appropriate, DON'T take your child to that establishment.

If the kids are learning this from their parents this early in life, how are they going to be as teenagers?? :shakes head:

Boy I'm coming off as judgmental. I'm really not trying to. I'm speaking from 10 years of observations as a classroom teacher (who also has a tendency to stay in that mode while in public, whether I want to or not--B has to talk me away from using my teacher voice some times...) and observing what works and what doesn't work with parenting.

Parenting is, without a doubt, the hardest job in the world. I have often lamented it would be SO much easier to be the girls' friend than their mom.