I have to tell you, though, what they have going on in their lives makes me ill. Seriously. I don't mean this as the judgmental express, but why do they or Nadya Suleman complain about all of the paparazzi or "P People" that they have following them when THIS IS WHAT THEY SIGNED UP FOR!
Folks, when you decide to air your entire life out on national television, you are going to get followed around. Surprising, I know, but you have made your life something people find interesting. Feed the public beast and it will feast.
1. You think that you are caring for your children in doing this as a "job," but now you have made them publicly hunted for the rest of their lives. That means that people good, bad and otherwise want a glimpse of those precious children that you spent so much freakin' money to have. That means grandmotherly ladies in the bathroom, Mamas and their kids in restaurants, playgrounds and whatnot, pedophiles . . . You've opened your life up to everyone.
2. Your children now think that everything that goes on in their lives have to be public knowledge. Do they see themselves on TV for either the program or even commercials? What do they think? Do they have a concept of keeping private matters in the family?
3. This strains relationships in your lives. Though you have chosen to air every single aspect of your life out on the laundry line of life for 1/2 of the world to see, not everyone in your life is interested in being showcased on television. You have just alienated some folks in your lives possibly forever. Just letting you know.
4. You may do this as a "job" but know that when you decided to be a parent, you should have done so with a plan to provide for your family without making them a traveling circus. You have made the choice to have batchloads of children and that is fine. However, having done so, you are now asking the public for money or donations (see website for Nadya Suleman, which I won't post here) or Kate stating that it is her job now to travel and so forth. This is something that you very much chose for your life. You shouldn't expect others to finance this venture for you. I applaud you for choosing to have all the babies that seated themselves comfortably in your womb. I wouldn't have been able to be selective, either.
Why do I write this? I'm irritated. I have never watched Jon and Kate, but I can't believe what choices that they have made for their family. Nadya decided to have a big family on her own-- her own choice-- but then she's been trying to get a reality TV show, going on Dr. Phil and whatnot. Come on people! Just be a family. Raise your family TOGETHER. Jon and Kate's marriage is falling apart. How so sad.
There is a family from NE Ohio that had multiples. They are the Hanselman's. They have sextuplets. Sure, the community pulled together. They had folks help them when the babies came home. Their church had a donation drive for them. Someone built them a spiffy new house. But they didn't ask for these things. They didn't exploit their children. They are an extremely quiet and thankful family.
We've run into them or part of them while we're out and about. We went to a library program with a friend and there were the Hanselman sextuplets-- all six children with additional caregivers in tow. I've seen Jennifer out shopping on her own. But they have done it, on their own, with some community help. They didn't feel the need to employ reality TV as a way to make money. They didn't ask for help. People wanted to help.
See? It is possible to have a big family and finance it on your own. It is possible to be that mommy and daddy that is blessed to have that "Surprise! Guess what took with that in vitro procedure" that you had and do it quietly.
Let the Hanselman's be an example to you. They are quiet people. They are involved people. I admire them for the choices that they have made for their family. Jon? Kate? Nadya? Please make the Hanselman's your roll model.