tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8181941897289258428.post7781719947527337857..comments2023-12-26T21:48:58.294-05:00Comments on Bailey's Leaf: If you bonk me on the side of the head, perhaps my eyes will become uncrossed.Bailey's Leafhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16752350373632902394noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8181941897289258428.post-38199348726914077172010-04-13T22:24:56.678-04:002010-04-13T22:24:56.678-04:00My thought is that having watched someone deal wit...My thought is that having watched someone deal with an adoptive son with attachment issues since he was 22 months old (his age when he came to their home), not enough time was given. Just now, L- has medication that is truly making a difference and therapy is helping him to make real strides. His age now? 6 years and 4 months. It has been a long road for my friend. There are days we've talked and she's cried. By no means is it an easy road. Just my thoughts for whatever it is worth.Bailey's Leafhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16752350373632902394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8181941897289258428.post-79688614916459558052010-04-13T19:03:15.921-04:002010-04-13T19:03:15.921-04:00I have to agree with Kathy. We would never rant an...I have to agree with Kathy. We would never rant and rave about a bio mom and her decision to do what was best for her child by releasing him into adoption. Why the double standard for an adoptive mom whose heart was probably torn after 18 months of not being able to bond with a traumatized child?tracey.becker1@gmail.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09606831315390042198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8181941897289258428.post-31363760098277418782010-04-10T09:23:20.822-04:002010-04-10T09:23:20.822-04:00This is a complicated issue and I found myself wan...This is a complicated issue and I found myself wanting to write a lot, but I deleted and shortened.<br />I am a foster parent, and certainly the best thing we did for our one full time child was to keep her. <br />That said I don't think I have enough information to demonize that woman for what she has done.<br />Bio moms are called heroes for giving up babies for the most frivolous of reasons. Seems like a double standard to me.<br />Kathyconcretenprimroseshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12615278788874155439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8181941897289258428.post-20111763445654480822009-10-09T15:40:09.805-04:002009-10-09T15:40:09.805-04:00oh that story was so, so sad to read :(oh that story was so, so sad to read :(Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02441176684416139172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8181941897289258428.post-29074148227299601572009-10-03T08:19:33.372-04:002009-10-03T08:19:33.372-04:00I'm SO sorry about that tire. That is beyond ...I'm SO sorry about that tire. That is beyond stinky. :o( <br /><br />And, congrats on the books! I read aloud SOOOOOOO much during the day I think I'm going to lose my voice. ;o) <br /><br />As for that woman (I refuse to call her a "Mother" for she certainly wasn't one to that sweet baby), she'll have to face her maker one day and he'll be the one to judge her for the choices she has made. That said, I feel incredibly sorry for the baby. :o(Rachhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09317328366288947798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8181941897289258428.post-70355953744972768982009-10-03T08:16:55.101-04:002009-10-03T08:16:55.101-04:00Ah! So sorry! That is a piece that I didn't ...Ah! So sorry! That is a piece that I didn't get. I know that the news that I saw was talking about how the child wasn't attaching the way that she hoped that he would. I was talking with my mother and telling her that she is also talking about a boy vs. 5 daughters. Boys are different. Add to that the move from one country to another where the language and traditions are completely different. Young, but I know that he was affected by this. Friends adopted a 22 month old son from Ethiopia and had similar difficulties. With their son, he has big attachment difficulties (he is 5 1/2 now), but they have muddled through it and have him seeing a psychiatrist and a psychologist. He's on med's and they have to tweak them, but they are trying with him. Though he was only 22 months old when they got him, he was with his mother when she passed away from Malaria. He lived in an orphanage. Skulls scare him. He has a most difficult time at Halloween. Intense heat freaks him out. You can tell that there are some things that push buttons to remind him of his motherland, but in the end, he is shuffling through and they are doing the best they can for him. <br /><br />Didn't know about the head thing with the baby at all. Come to think about it, I do recall hearing about how he was left in a crib for extended periods but didn't connect the two. Yes, very correctable, but needs caught early. Sorry about that!Bailey's Leafhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16752350373632902394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8181941897289258428.post-16320941043968064102009-10-02T20:54:56.405-04:002009-10-02T20:54:56.405-04:00POSITIONAL plagiocephaly. Sorry.
If you have a g...POSITIONAL plagiocephaly. Sorry.<br /><br />If you have a good sleeper and stick to the sleeping on the back thing (which is recommended) it happens often)Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08087323964849168183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8181941897289258428.post-35301231051776205512009-10-02T20:52:33.719-04:002009-10-02T20:52:33.719-04:00No, the woman complained that he had a flat head (...No, the woman complained that he had a flat head (the one who gave her kid away). That is called Plagiocephaly sic?<br /><br />Babies should sleep on their backs to prevent SIDS.<br /><br />It WORKS! The exact percentage of SIDS deaths have gone down as the percentage of Plagicephaly patients have gone up. I dont think its a coincidence. Not when its just about an exact percentage.<br /><br />Tummy time when they are awake helps, but flattening to a certain extent is really going up. The kids need to be fitted with helmets to reshape their heads because facial abnormalities can happen otherwise. (face pushed forward).<br /><br />That grabbed my attention when I read the article you linked. That she just said he had a flat head from obvious abuse annoyed me.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08087323964849168183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8181941897289258428.post-27671889218681467582009-10-02T20:34:38.088-04:002009-10-02T20:34:38.088-04:00Oops. I think you got me instead of someone else....Oops. I think you got me instead of someone else.Bailey's Leafhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16752350373632902394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8181941897289258428.post-55093114056174162512009-10-02T19:20:13.586-04:002009-10-02T19:20:13.586-04:00As for the plagiocephaly? Did she get him a helme...As for the plagiocephaly? Did she get him a helmet? Its totally treatable at that age as their skulls are still soft.<br /><br />Both my niece and nephew had to wear the helmets as did both of my friends kids. Yay for the HUGE percentage of kids that arent dying of SIDS anymore. But BOO for the fact that so many babies have to wear a helmet for 23 hours a day for about a year. It doesnt seem to bother them much though, they get used to it quickly. And I want to give people that stare at the babies a poke in the eye lol.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08087323964849168183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8181941897289258428.post-84999671667547409582009-10-02T17:12:11.102-04:002009-10-02T17:12:11.102-04:00You'd be surprised the memory that little ones...You'd be surprised the memory that little ones can have. From the huge amount of foster parent classes we went through, we learned of one little girl that was se*xua*lly abused at the age of 3 months. She went insane when any man came in looking like the offender. She also would have a fit if a man wore the same after shave as the man who abused her. <br /><br />From a normal kid standpoint, K- has a pretty incredible memory even from places that we went at the age of 1. The places that she can navigate and the things that she tell us! <br /><br />But yes, the baby is probably better off, but sad that there was yet another family thinking that adopted babies are returnable.Bailey's Leafhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16752350373632902394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8181941897289258428.post-61047584791244630852009-10-02T16:16:03.883-04:002009-10-02T16:16:03.883-04:00I have to agree with you on the Mother thing. Wha...I have to agree with you on the Mother thing. What did she think that an abandoned baby found on the roadside would NOT have issues? She was living in lala land.<br /><br />That said, with her attitude the baby is better off, and probably will not remember. People really dont have much memory from that age.<br /><br />And also, my word verification? whitedoom.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08087323964849168183noreply@blogger.com