tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8181941897289258428.post2731602516253000113..comments2023-12-26T21:48:58.294-05:00Comments on Bailey's Leaf: Tales from the Trenches: Weird invitations and omissionsBailey's Leafhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16752350373632902394noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8181941897289258428.post-36606332107986893862010-05-20T21:00:46.704-04:002010-05-20T21:00:46.704-04:00Kassi,
Don't feel bad about the first birthda...Kassi,<br /><br />Don't feel bad about the first birthday. Because K-'s first birthday and adoption day were the very same day (true!) we had 94 people invited to an open house that we had at our little 1008 sq foot ranch home. Because the adoption was involved, it got huge. We live on a dead end street and it was parked full. So was our driveway. We actually had folks standing on the back step waiting to get in. (Our pastor, wife and daughter.) In the end, we counted 68 people that were able to come. It was crazy crowded, but we had such a great time. Never again, though. <br /><br />On the other hand, yes, the wedding bit with the ex is weird and I'm sorry that you were left out of a family thing for Mother's Day. <br /><br />Hey! Did your friend ever have her baby and did her husband arrive home in time?Bailey's Leafhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16752350373632902394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8181941897289258428.post-17028276519662939982010-05-20T13:29:36.713-04:002010-05-20T13:29:36.713-04:00We have invited about 100 people to our son's ...We have invited about 100 people to our son's first birthday party. We know everyone invited and about 1/2 those people are under the age of 10. I think it is weird that my husband wanted to invite everyone we knew. I had to actually stop him from inviting more people...because really, our son is going to be one year old. He isn't going to remember any of it. My husband is weird like that and has to invite EVERYONE. It drives me crazy. as an example he had to have his ex girlfriend at our wedding. I certainly didn't want her there, but omitting her would have been noticed by their mutual friends. Egads...when does the pleasantry stop and the reality set in??<br /><br />Alternately, my mother put on a big mother's day picnic for the family about 5 years ago and purposely excluded me and my children. She has done this a few times though, so it wasn't surprising.Kassihttp://kassgilbert.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8181941897289258428.post-10111911846201045602010-05-19T08:52:39.195-04:002010-05-19T08:52:39.195-04:00I should add that my mother-in-law handled Hors d&...I should add that my mother-in-law handled Hors d'œuvres for us. We knew that there would be a gap between the folks arriving at the hall and us getting there.Bailey's Leafhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16752350373632902394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8181941897289258428.post-2566629876113426822010-05-19T08:50:14.404-04:002010-05-19T08:50:14.404-04:00Here in NE Ohio, we do have showers and get gifts ...Here in NE Ohio, we do have showers and get gifts for that, but the wedding also brings gifts, too. Cash is not a necessary or a required item to "cover wedding prices." If cash is given, the thought is that it will go to help you further your life together by starting a bit of a nest egg, not pay for the bills you accrued by having a party that you couldn't afford. <br /><br />We had 143 people at our wedding. It was small by the standards that each side of the family typically had, but we had the wedding that we could afford. We paid for it and had it paid in full before the wedding day. There were people that were close to us that gifted services. My mom did the flowers. They were gorgeous and since we married on Valentine's Day, we knew we couldn't afford real anyhow. That was my parent's gift. The best men, twin cousins of my husband, went together and hired a DJ for us. They later went into the DJ business, so we laugh at how completely appropriate their gift was. My aunt, since passed, made all of the family wedding cakes. She did a gorgeous job and was regularly commissioned for her services. That was my aunt's gift. For the alcohol that we didn't want but were given no choice to have, I traded my sister her maid of honor dress for the alcohol that was left over from her wedding. (Believe me, it was a lot.) She was divorcing (long story, but they had been together 7 years, but married for 6 weeks) and she didn't need it in her house. It worked out perfectly. My parents paid for the beer. My grandmother, on her deathbed, gave each of us engaged girls (there were three of us) $300.00 toward our wedding gown. She knew that she wouldn't be at the wedding physically, but she would gift us something that would last forever before she passed. My dress came in and I tried it on for her not long before she died. <br /><br />I suppose that in a way, it takes a village. We were blessed to have been gifted with so many pieces to the wedding puzzle, but still, we kept the costs to something we could afford. No use in starting a marriage stressed out about having a huge party that you don't know if you'll have the cash later to cover.Bailey's Leafhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16752350373632902394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8181941897289258428.post-71836155068281275622010-05-19T07:21:35.102-04:002010-05-19T07:21:35.102-04:00I've had the family shower that I somehow got ...I've had the family shower that I somehow got left off the invite list. Depending on who it is I've gone on Babies R Us and pulled up the registry and sent a gift anyway. I don't do it to make them feel bad, but I'm family and I wanted to send a gift. <br />I think I remember that shower and I'm not sure why you didn't get an invite. Weird.... <br />A couple of years ago hubs side had 2 weddings and didn't invite any "kids" (he's 45 and I'm 40 so I think we passed the kid point but whatever). He was kind of close with these people and it made him feel kind of badly. No gift sent though. He didn't feel that badly. <br />That Dear Abby one is funny though. I'd photocopy some money and stick it in the card, or better yet, send an etiquette book. Sounds like the kid will need one in the future.ChupieandJ'smama (Janeen)https://www.blogger.com/profile/12367131116081742274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8181941897289258428.post-62505401559827431232010-05-18T23:32:30.914-04:002010-05-18T23:32:30.914-04:00BTW - you were right to decline. That means she d...BTW - you were right to decline. That means she didnt pay for your head!!Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08087323964849168183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8181941897289258428.post-83583603692251449392010-05-18T23:30:15.640-04:002010-05-18T23:30:15.640-04:00I think it's where you come from. Showers are ...I think it's where you come from. Showers are meant for gifts from where I come from, and cash is the expected gift for a wedding, which is expected to cover wedding prices.<br /><br />Not saying what is right or wrong, but it is what is it is where I come from.<br /><br />Weddings here generally run from $100 a head and up, that may be a part of it.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08087323964849168183noreply@blogger.com